We all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own
Falling off a surfboard
While practising on a beach break recently and doing an excellent job of falling off my surfboard, there was a point when I looked up to where the sun dwellers lounged and I thought to myself, I bet they're looking at me ... Read More
Living without purpose
Living without purpose
Nothing makes you feel more alive than when you’re trying to stay alive. I can only imagine what it was like living as a hunter gather. One thing I’m sure of is that it was more interesting than the drudgery of 9-5 ... Read More
Opposite thinking
Opposite thinking vs the consensus
In an effort to combat linear thinking, there's a technique that sounds like it was inspired by George Costanza's philosophy called opposite thinking (or reverse thinking) ... Read More
Overdoing delayed gratification
Overdoing delayed gratification
There's a well known psychological experiment that's often cited in books about delayed gratification. The experiment offered children a choice of eating a marshmallow now or waiting and receiving double the reward later. ... Read More
A Hobson’s choice: getting FIREd
Thomas Hobson
I don't know about you but sometimes I like it when decisions are made for me, or when there's only one choice: a Hobson's choice. It prevents over-analysis and regret. It means change versus never-ending pondering ... Read More
How to be grateful
How to be grateful
Based on many measures this is the best time in human history to be alive. So why do so many of us not feel grateful? ... Read More
True self vs false self: who do you prefer?
True self vs false self: who do you prefer?
Donald Winnicott is considered to be one of the greatest thinkers from the 19th century in the field of psychoanalysis. Winnicott came up with the concept of the true self and false self. ... Read More
Do one thing every day that scares you: good vs bad fear
do one thing everyday that scares you
As with "an apple a day keeps the doctor away", the general sentiment of doing one thing everyday that scares you is a good one. But it's worth defining what "scare" means ... Read More
Existential intelligence: struggling with pointless office work
Existential intelligence
If my younger self could have looked ahead in time and seen what I'm doing now, how disappointed would I have been? It's safe to say that working in an office wasn't my dream. ... Read More